Take some time everyday to talk to your children and learn about their day. Whether it’d be on the way to school, on the way home, or the ten-minutes before your child fall asleep. Start with open questions and encourage silly answers: “Tell me something good that happened today.” “Tell me something that made you laugh today.” “If you got to be a grandma/teacher tomorrow, what would you do?” “Tell me about three different times you used your pencil today.” Make it fun and imaginative; avoid turning it into a lecture.
Give them a choice of 2-3, but no more than 5! Kids tend to panic and cry when overwhelmed with choices. Make it easy for them by pre-selecting possible options and ask them to choose one. Follow-up on what this choice means. This allows your child to experience the entire process: from making the decision to experiencing the consequences. They will get better and better at it with practice.